I am determined to quit smoking because i can feel it taking its toll on me. I hate the fact that my boyfriend smokes and we are moving in together soon. This has been an issue for us for a long time and I don’t know what to do. Everytime I complain he asks me to stop nagging him and let him live his life the way he wants. I am torn between wanting him to be healthy and allowing him to be his own individual. I also hate being around his second hand smoke.
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look, you’re quitting smoking because YOU are ready to quit. perhaps, he’s not ready to quit, or does not ever plan on quitting. you’re a smoker, so you should know how hard it is to quit. and, i’m sure he knows how hard it is and doesn’t want to go through it right now. if you want him to quit, the only thing that i can think of for you to do is to find a way to motivate him, and that’s really all you can do. be more like an anti-smoking chearleader than a "nagging" girlfriend.
There is no way that you should move in together as you have an issue with him an it will only get worse.Since he is selfcentered.An told you where to go.This is only the begining of what you will be in for Best of luck???
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look, you’re quitting smoking because YOU are ready to quit. perhaps, he’s not ready to quit, or does not ever plan on quitting. you’re a smoker, so you should know how hard it is to quit. and, i’m sure he knows how hard it is and doesn’t want to go through it right now. if you want him to quit, the only thing that i can think of for you to do is to find a way to motivate him, and that’s really all you can do. be more like an anti-smoking chearleader than a "nagging" girlfriend.
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Tell him it’s over if he’s not concerned about his health. You obviously are but he doesn’t seem to care. Addiction to smoking is a pretty bad habit, I had quit about year or so ago. Cold turkey too.
It’s horrible being around almost all of my friends because they still smoke. We all smoke other stuff too, but I’ve been way healthier since I quit cigs. Craving s hit me like a M*****F***** but I can deal with it.
Being able to breath without chest pains more than makes up for the fact that I feel like having to smoke a cigarette every once in a while. You know what I’m talking about, maybe someday your dude will care. Or maybe just go and find one who does.
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First, stop nagging him. He’s going to do what he’s going to do. That might even be something you like about him….
Second, quit smoking! You said you were committed to doing it. SO, do it! It’s going to be hard, no matter what. And it’s going to be harder with him smoking around you all the time. SO, get ready for the fight, get serious about quitting, know what your obstacles are, and get over them!
He’s your boyfriend for other reasons that have nothing to do with whether he smokes or not, right? Sounds like he’s not willing to help you quit, so you have to do it alone. SO, do it. If you’re serious about quitting to the point where you don’t think you can live with someone who doesn’t support you, don’t move in with him.
Sounds simple doesn’t it? I know. It’s not. Good luck.
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I commend you for wanting to quit. It was by far the hardest feat I ever accomplished in my life. Here’s the deal. You want him for long term, right. His continued use of tobacco makes him a short-timer. In addition, he is risking YOUR health, also. If he cares for himself, he will quit. If he can’t care for himself, how can he care for you. Pretty hard nosed, I know but you need to lay it on the line. "Don’t quit for me, but until you quit, there will be no me." I sincerely hope for both of you, that you succeed. It will be a proud accomplishment. Let us know how this turns out, will ya? Best wishes.
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either accept it or give him the boot but dont try to tell a grown man how to live his life
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